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You've probably seen the OK Cupid dating site stats floating about, and discussions about people stating preferences for the race of their partner.

I did the "OMG" thing then forgot about it until....

I've always liked looking at men. Tall, short, thin, fat, hairy, odd faces, I like men. It's this heterosexual thing, presumably a very low level sexual attraction. I've felt the ping from blokes I'd never consider even hugging after all. That "there are men in the world, this is good" ping.

But looking around at work, where we have a number of men in their 20s/30s who are subcontinent Asians (South Asians? Can't say Indian because for all I know some are Pakistani or Bangladeshi) and I realised they didn't ping my radar. I just didn't see them as "like to look at" in the way I see Anglo men.

Which shocked the hell out of my middle class pinko chardonnay sipping self lemme tell you!

I've certainly been attracted to Asian guys (hi Thorfy!) and more of them trip my radar than the South Asians do. And the Africans I've seen have mostly been quite pleasant to rest my eyes upon. My Lebanese neighbour and most of the other Lebanese and Iraqi/Iranian/Arabs I see around the place (this being a migrant suburb) I see with this small pleasure.

Now sometimes I've seen in the various Bollywood posters some nice looking blokes but perhaps I think that because they tend to be good looking in a whitefella sort of way?

What got me was that these young men just didn't ping me as "man, mmm". It wasn't "ick" it wasn't quite "eyes pass over" either, it was edging close to "don't like".

I'm still trying to work out what is going on.

Some kind of atavistic "they want my job"? Maybe I'm cool with Chinese/SouthEastAsians because I grew up with them? A Malaysian Chinese as a boarder during my primary school years and a Japanese as my father's research partner and friend for many years? So they come up as "normal" and I'm just utterly unused to seeing dark skins? But then why doesn't the African DBA a desk or two over do it to me? More used to seeing them on TV?

Dunno, I have no debug code. But it does worry me....
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